Dating an older cancer man
If you are naturally romantic that's okay too, but the point is they don't need a romantic partner in the traditional sense. Leaving a love note when they're feeling on top of the world and wanting to laugh and party won't score a fraction of the points. More than anything they want a partner who can empathize with them, and seducing a Cancer (in the long term) is as simple as tuning into them.
In the early stages of a relationship this is as simple as communicating well.
In exchange they are nearly always willing to nurture you, probably more than your parents did!
You probably know from your own personality if this is the type of partner you want.
It may be true sometimes, but it's really missing the point, so to go off at another brief tangent: At times Cancer's feel particularly alone and vulnerable. Leaving a love note under their windshield wiper will carry more impact than a candlelit dinner if it's done at the right time.
) you may want to think carefully and be prepared to change in this area (as it's really not optional).
If this happens however, don't congratulate yourself too soon!
There's a very good chance you will face the above challenges before you're offered a second sample... In practice however each Cancer is different due to their other planet placements (moon, mars, venus etc) and some extreme examples may not resemble a Cancer much at all.
If you aim to become their best friend you will be 90% of the way there.
If you don't feel like you could be best friends then it should be a warning sign for both of you.
While very occasionally you may find an independent Cancer (perhaps with very heavy fire or air influences in their natal chart) the vast majority fit the above generalization. They give their all, and they expect the same in return.