How to build trust in a dating relationship
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.The fact is, you can only let in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside.If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over. Growing up in the church, I thought I had a solid understanding of how my story would play out. No matter how you choose to word it, being single was never in my plans.No amount of flirting made Jesus more desirable to him.Sure, he could have provided me with every luxury in this world — except the one thing that held the most value to me.
There seemed to be 10 girls for every single available guy in church.